The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again expecting to yield a different result. Are doing the same thing you have always done to meet new people? Picking up people at a bar or using an app to find a date? I want to help you find the love of your life, even if you never contact me about my Matchmaking Services. Do you find yourself meeting the same exact person but in different packaging? If you want to meet a person unlike anyone else you have ever met, you need to try a new approach. I’m here to help and have detailed 4 ways to meet someone new organically.
Be present and pay attention to your surroundings. We are inundated with technology, our eyes constantly glued to a mobile screen. How do you expect to meet a person in real life if you never look up? Other humans looking to connect will also be aware of their surroundings, making eye contact is critical here. Being present requires you to be in the moments, not on your phone swiping or liking. Who knows who you may meet walking your dog or out and about in your work or home neighborhood or at Trader Joes or Whole Foods.
Be the best version of you ALWAYS. You never have a second chance to make a first impression. Always try to be polite and approachable. I try to hold the door open or the elevator whenever I can or help carry groceries for someone trying to juggle too much. We are all on this planet together so helping each other out-even in the smallest way, will make you feel good and create the possibility for you to meet someone new. Do you know how many grandmothers and mothers use to bump into people so they could facilitate introductions to their single loved ones back in the day? Thousands of little old Yenta’s were working behind the scenes long before technology took over.
Sign up for an activity you enjoy participating in. The new year is typically a busy time for matchmaking. Internally driven types have a game plan on how to handle the new year with set goals to achieve desired results. This is a prime time to sign up for that Vavi League, Yoga, Cycling, Hiking, Rock Climbing class or any activity that peeks your curiosity and involves a group of individuals with similar interests. The classes vary in attendance, giving you an opportunity to meet multiple individuals on a consistent basis. If shared hobbies are an important quality you are seeking in a life partner this is an especially important step to take in meeting someone special organically.
Go to more business networking events. When I first moved back to San Diego after living in the Bay Area for 3 years I attended as many social professional mixers as I could. The single undertone was significantly present at one in particular, but not in a meat market way. I wanted to sample all of them before narrowing my focus down to specific business networking events that had what I considered a higher caliber of single professionals. I know of a handful of happily married couples who met at these exact events. If you are more on the introverted side this may be a painful experience. I suggest having an extroverted friend join you so that person can do all the handshaking.
I would be happy to hear from you if you are struggling with dating and live here in San Diego. Please make sure to fill out my contact form here on my website and I will be in touch.